I've been in a stable relationship for the last two-and-a-half years but I recently bumped into an ex-boyfriend of mine, and since then I can't stop thinking about him.

I’m really tempted to meet up with him. What should I do? Joanna

Dear Joanna,

We've heard loads about the 7-Year-Itch but the feeling of dissatisfaction and panic that many of us feel at about the 2-and-a-half year mark can be just as strong.

When a relationship is less than two years you can always pretend you’re still "getting to know each other", "waiting to see if the relationship has legs". Any of those quaint phrases we use to decide to keep others, and sometimes ourselves – from putting a name to our relationship.

By the time two-and-a-half years comes around few of us can pretend anything other than not only are we part of a couple - we’re probably part of a pretty serious couple as well. For many of us that provides a feeling of "aaaaah" or "phew". "OK Here I am, let’s make a go of this now". For others it’s "How did I get here!" and "Is this really where I want to be?".

Don’t assume that these sorts of feelings are typically that of the male. Now that we’re in the noughties and women are becoming more and more independent on a daily basis, rest assured that we also are balking. Put all the above together with the sighting of someone who was previously "the apple of your eye" and you have a recipe for possible trouble. Stop! Take a good long hard look in the mirror at yourself and your current relationship. Chances are it isn’t your ex that you’re attracted to but more things about your current circumstance that you are trying to avoid.

See him if you must but be sure you’re not taking a chance at ruining a really good thing.

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