My boyfriend never seems to want sex. I'm 33 and find I want it all the time. This frustrates me as he will only make love to me twice a week. If ask for more then he gets in a mood and says I'm abnormal. What should I do? One of the biggest casualties of the stressful society we are now living in is the effect our high-pressured lifestyles are having on the libido of the average man. It is now believed that millions of men regularly experience difficulties becoming interested in sex and in many instances they are also experiencing difficulties in performing satisfactorily. There are many factors being cited. Longer work hours. Higher alcohol consumption. Stress, money worries, dietary considerations have all been mentioned as possible reasons for this phenomenon. Men are built differently than women – they cannot lie back and think of England – for them to perform they have to be 'in the mood'. The more pressure one exerts is the worse the situation will get as nothing kills the mood like undue pressure. 'Wanting it all the time' is usually more psychological than physical. In other words it probably isn’t your body setting off hormones creating an insatiable desire that has to be satisfied. It is more likely an emotional need that you feel will be satisfied by having sex. Do not fear this is also more common than we think. So we have a man who is possibly tired, stressed out, or intimidated by the demands being placed on him. And a woman who is placing physical ‘demands’ possibly for an emotional need. Ask yourself how it makes you feel when you have sex. Does it make you feel loved, wanted, desired? If you are in a solid relationship you shouldn’t need to have sex to feel those things. Making love is done because those feelings are already present between the two of you; not to create those feelings. Spend some time being intimate with each other with the explicit understanding that sex is not on the menu. 'Cuddle time' with no pressures, no expectations. Chances are a couple of weeks of doing that will allow him to relax and feel less pressured and you both will then have what you want which is a relaxing, fulfilling (in all ways) relationship.