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I can’t seem to have a lasting relationship.
I feel I don’t have enough energy or time to put into one. I seem to lose interest before it’s got off the ground so I let it dwindle into nothing, but on the other hand I would like someone special in my life. Anon
You don’t have the energy, you don’t have the time, you don’t have the interest and you’ll let it die out because "why bother". BUT, you would kind of, sort of, maybe want someone special. Are you hearing something different when you hear me saying it?
What I am hearing is someone who possibly has conflicting feelings about the concept of having a relationship so instead of having reasons why you don’t do the work, you are providing reasons as to why it just isn’t happening.
There are two main possibilities. One is that you’re not choosing the kind of people that are right for you in the first place and so the process isn’t engaging you. The other possibility is that you have some underlying negative feelings about relationships and deep down inside you don’t really want to have one. I would say it is more likely the latter.
Take a sheet of paper and write down five positive things that having a relationship means to you. Then five negatives. Put the paper away for a week then come back and see which outweighs the other. If the positives win the day then try approaching a totally different type of person than you have in the past. Get someone who you want to be with so badly that you don’t care if you have to give up sleep or your daily six hours of knitting to free up some time. However if the negatives win the day I would say you need to explore that further because until you clear away whatever is blocking, you aren’t going to be free to have the kind of successful relationship you say you want. Good luck.
