Posture
When flirting, men and women will naturally adopt a posture which emphasises their masculinity or femininity. Men tend to stand tall with their chest forward, while women subconsciously adopt a pose which shows off their feminine features such as their hips or chest.

Playing
Women will often play with something, such as their jewellery, their hair or their wine glass when they’re attracted to a man. However, guys, be careful not to confuse this with fidgeting which is a sign of boredom! Positive playing will be slow and hypnotic, whereas fidgeting will be fretful and annoying.

Excuse touching
During your date, if the person you are with is enjoying your company, he/she will casually touch you to test the water. For example, he/she may touch your wrist during conversation, or touch your hand 'accidentally' when you both reach for the menu, and so on. You might like to try this 'excuse' touching yourself if you’re attracted to someone but feel unsure of how they feel about you. If they don’t pull away from your touch, and initiate similar 'excuse' touching, it’s looking good!

The gaze
When we see a possible dating opportunity, we tend to 'eye-up' the person concerned. This involves casting our eyes over the other person's eyes, then looking at their lips, then down towards their body, and back up to meet their gaze. This is likely to be a rapid process, but if you catch your date checking you out on more than one occasion, it’s more than likely they’re enjoying the view!

Prolonged eye contact
If your date is making frequent and prolonged eye contact, it is a positive sign of their attraction to you. Your date's pupils are also likely to dilate if they’re feeling the love. Watch out for whether your date uses the flirtatious 'come to bed' look where the head is tilted downwards and the eyes are looking up towards you, as another positive indication of attraction.

Lip gazing/biting
You may notice your date looking at your lips on several occasions, particularly if they’re hoping for a kiss! Women will sometimes subconsciously bite their lip while flirting with a man as a sign of attraction.

Breathing patterns
When your date is really feeling the sparks fly as the attraction intensifies, their breathing will become slower and heavier. This happens during the lust phase, and is more likely to occur further into the relationship as opposed to on the first date, unless the initial sexual chemistry is explosive!

Ready to kiss
Knowing whether or not someone would like to be kissed is often tricky. If you’ve noticed your date displaying a fair amount of the bodily cues above, particularly the excuse touching behaviour, they could well be hoping for a kiss. So, if your date is standing close to you (closer than a friend/family member would usually stand), gazing into your eyes and looking at your lips a lot, has their lips are parted, and seems to be lingering a while, it’s likely that they’re after your killer kiss.

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2nd April 2007