Dear Jenni...

I'm a 33 year-old and I'm having a bit of a problem with my personal relationships. My last two-year relationship ended back in 2005 as he was very abusive and I finally found the strength to end it. He made me feel worthless and non-deserving of his attention let alone anyone else's. I have picked myself up and got back to how I used to be - a very confident outgoing person.

Since then I seem to keep having the same problem: I meet a guy, he really likes me, wants to have a relationship with me, tells me he has feelings for me then about a week later it's all over with him breaking up with me. My most recent "relationship" was with someone I thought to be a decent, honest guy. He even seemed a little nervous and shy around me at times, however once he had a couple of drinks he became more confident and started talking about his feelings for me. He said he wanted us to make a go of the relationship and even talked of having children together! Three days later the relationship was over. He said he wasn't in the right place for a relationship!

I need some advice as to whether this is my fault as I keep attracting these men and is there anything you can suggest to help me stop this happening.

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